There are several reasons why emotional abuse is difficult to identify, even if you’ve seen it before: The strategy is subtle and continuous and woven into every interaction you have with the individual. An abusive event taken on its own, is in fact not abusive. They could just be having Read more…
Emotional abuse is a subtle web, which slowly brings the victim under the control of the abuser. All the while, damage is being done internally, with no evidence of visible bruising. Only once control is established does the overt emotional abuse begin. At this point the victim may only start Read more…
The most important thing here is that you do not blame yourself! You are NOT responsible for the abuse. It is never OK for anyone to abuse you, and you are extremely strong for coming to this point. The fact that you are reading this means that you are on Read more…
Everyone has good and bad days. No one is perfect. Your partner/boss/parent might have had a bad day, lost control of their emotions and snapped something insensitive at you. Could this be an early warning sign of impending emotional abuse? Or just the normal ups and downs of relationships? No Read more…
This is a tough one. Firstly, because until someone points it out to you in practice, you are probably not going to know that you have been manipulated. Secondly, it is difficult to fight, but definitely not impossible. People are trying to manipulate you every day (think salesman, fear based Read more…
One can have difficulty in recognizing abuse as it isn’t always black and white. For example, there is no argument in the case of rape, beating someone or locking them up in the house. That is straight forward wrong without argument. Shaking your fist or whistling at a girl can Read more…
Most people think they know what emotional abuse is, but then they describe verbal abuse. Ask yourself the question now; what is emotional abuse, and how is it different to verbal abuse? Is it really that bad? Abuse is all about control Ultimately, all abuse comes down to control. As Read more…