For some reason there is a negative connotation around the word boundary. There is an idea floating around in romantic land that two people that love each other should drop all defenses and be completely open and bare to each other. That makes as much sense as removing all laws Read more
The most important thing here is that you do not blame yourself! You are NOT responsible for the abuse. It is never OK for anyone to abuse you, and you are extremely strong for coming to this point. The fact that you are reading this means that you are on Read more
Please tell us your story on how you recognized what was happening, what you did, and what helped you. Not only is it therapeutic to write things down, but your story may help many others in their difficult situation. You know better than anyone that there are many people out Read more
There are a number of reasons that dealing with emotional abuse is so hard. This is made worse by the gaslighting effect of the abuse, which leaves you confused, or wrapped up into believing some of your abuser’s erroneous ideas about their behavior and the truth of the situation. You Read more
I have spoken to a lot of people that either have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, or who were intimately connected with someone who did, and the message of hope they shared was the same each time without exception: “It was terrible, but now I am so happy” “It Read more